That said, brides usually make the wedding day all about them… not even considering the rules and regulations of churches when planning their weddings. This is especially true if they are not avid church goers, but want to get married in a church. They don’t think about the church as a holy place… they just think about having a beautiful church to be married in. — I got married in a Lutheran church (even tho I’m non-denominational, and my groom was Catholic) there were many, many, MANY rules I had to follow based on the philosophy of the church AND not only that, but the church’s board had to approve or disapprove by majority vote on nearly EVERYTHING down to the flowers, decor, music (if secular), and my dress (no bare shoulders or revealing necklines – that went for bridesmaids too). I couldn’t even walk down the aisle to the Wedding March because the church said the songs meaning was dark. The most devastating thing… photographs couldn’t be taken during the ceremony because at that point it wasn’t about me or my groom is was about God. I was OK with all of the rules because I view the church as a holy place, but that’s not the case for everyone. All of this considered, do your homework and find out everything about the church’s rules regarding bringing anything secular into the ceremony… including rules on apparel. I had already purchased a strapless dress for me and my bridesmaids, thankfully the easy fix was to wear shoulder wraps while at the altar.